Why do you think some people fall in love and become love addicts while others fall in love but do not? Do you think that it's a matter of biology? Life scripts? Attachment styles? Self-esteem? Etc.
Friday, September 30, 2011
Is Love Your Drug?
Love Addict Test
Take the self-quiz at the link above and see if you are a love addict. Now that we know that love creates dopamine in the brain similar to many drugs like cocaine and meth, we can now understand how many can become addicted to being in love.
Why do you think some people fall in love and become love addicts while others fall in love but do not? Do you think that it's a matter of biology? Life scripts? Attachment styles? Self-esteem? Etc.
Why do you think some people fall in love and become love addicts while others fall in love but do not? Do you think that it's a matter of biology? Life scripts? Attachment styles? Self-esteem? Etc.
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Man this question is beyond broad because I truly believe that the reason why some fall in love and become addicts while others don't could be a combination of one or the other or all put together. I mean the reasons are endless in my personal opinion. I don't really have my mind set on just one, but if their had to be one reason for me to pick then it would have to be peoples self esteem.
ReplyDeleteWow, this one is tough. Initially, if I had to put my money on something I would have to go with biology. People fall in love due to the survival instinct within us. Why we wish to repeat, maybe biology again? Maybe it is a byproduct of the attachment style. Can't say confidently. Love it's a mf'er.
ReplyDeleteLooking at the quiz, I can honestly say that some of the questons apply to me. I am only able to love somebody who will commit to a relationship. I don't want to be with somebody who is not willing to commit. I don't want to be with somebody who is needy. I don't consider myself a love addict. My love relationships are not a drug by a long shot.
ReplyDeleteWell let’s see here, I think a lot of falling in love has to do with the way someone is raised. Your attachment styles might have a lot to do with the way someone falls in love. I mean if someone is an emotional attached person I can see them falling in love to quick and the other person not, so it doesn’t work out and they are moving on and falling in love again. Also the way each person brain reacts to different things, like smells, sights, ect. If the reaction is more intense in one person then I can see them getting all goggle eyed and falling in love. There are two many different things that go on. Just be careful and once in love, love hard and long…
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I think one reason why people become addicted to being in love is pretty simple. People like to be liked. It’s human nature to want to be accepted. I think that people who fall in love but do not become addicted are more independent. Attachment style and self-esteem probably play a big role in determining if a person will become addicted to being in love. Some one who has a positive attitude about themselves would most likely have an easier time being alone and can recover from a break up better than someone with a negative view of themselves. A person who has low self-esteem may need more reassurance from romantic partners and, because of this, may become addicted to being in love. I don’t think there is one simple explanation.
ReplyDeleteAccording to the test I am considered a love addict, as I believe most people would be. I believe this neediness resides in all people and we seek out others as a way to fill this in our lives. It is hard to say exactly which components make a person a love addict, because I think it varies from person to person. I think biology plays a big part in initial attraction while attachment styles define the types of relationships people generally seek out. People fall in love for various reason ranging from desire for companionship to the need to fill a void in their life. Some people are better able to cope within the confines of a relationship because they have created meaningful relationships in their lives and have seen others who are successful at love. People who do not have this solid foundation within their lives often can not cope with the emotions and restrictions of relationships. They have an even harder time dealing with the ending of a relationship and how it affects their personal life. This question is hard to answer because there are so many components to love and what makes people fall in love.
ReplyDeleteI can not tell it is fortunate or not for the result showing I am not a love addict. But I really know someone is a love addict. They appears that easy fall in love and easy to give up, and they are also have a similarity which is emotional, especially very sensitive about the fragment of other people's conversation. I think this issue is kind of psychological problem. That makes them have a higher requirements on close relationship's extend or frequency than regular people.
ReplyDeleteI think people that fall in love and become love addicts while others do not is due to a combination of the subjects; biology, attacthment styles, etc. But if I were to choose, I would say self-esteem and attachment styles. I think how we are brought up as a person, the experiences we've dealt with relationships play an impact in how we choose to love. Some are capable of loving and being independent while others choose to love and become dependent. It's just pretty much how we cope with the feeling and if it's something we're not used to you'll see a change within yourself. If we're used to it, then we already know what we will be gettting into.
ReplyDeleteI personally think addiction (in general) is due to mostly biological issues. Throughout my life I’ve encountered many people that were addicted to one thing or another. When they abstained from that addictive activity they just tried to replace it with another activity. There was something chemically unbalanced with them and they just needed something safer or more acceptable to become addicted to. So, basically love, alcohol, drugs, violence, or anything else have a potential to be abused by a certain type of addictive person. I don’t think attachment styles, life scripts, or self-esteem play a real important role in addiction, but rather are excuses used by these addictive people. To explain my point you simply need to ask an addict why they are addicted.
ReplyDeleteI think that on some level everyone is some type of love addict. I also think that it had to do with how you are raised. There were some questions that I answered yes to but I am in a committed relationship and why would I not want the feelings reciprocated to me? I think that it is a mix of chemistry and nature/nurture..We usually follow the examples of our parents and in my case my parents were not the best examples. :) So in turn I have had to learn a lot of loves lessons on my own....
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