Is Love Your Drug?

Love Addict Test

Take the self-quiz at the link above and see if you are a love addict.  Now that we know that love creates dopamine in the brain similar to many drugs like cocaine and meth, we can now understand how many can become addicted to being in love.

Why do you think some people fall in love and become love addicts while others fall in love but do not?  Do you think that it's a matter of biology? Life scripts? Attachment styles? Self-esteem? Etc.

The Pick-Up Artist :) Blog 4

Studies show that we have approximately 4 minutes in the contact stage to make a good impression.   And based on that first impression, many of us make up our minds on whether or not we want to pursue the relationship to the next level or just remain acquaintances. 

Share with us your favorite pick-up lines (funny, serious, cheesy, etc).  From your own experiences, do they work?  What do you think is the best "pick-up" strategy? (Leave a green dangly earring behind? Put your phone number in their phone?)  Let's see what you can come up with!

What's Your EQ?

After watching Dr. Daniel Goleman's video lecture on Emotional and Social Intelligence, we learned how important it is to be emotionally intelligent.  Take the self-test on emotional intelligence at the following link EQ self-test and then comment on which of the 4 major aspects of emotional intelligence you feel is the most important to living a successful life and why.

1.  Self-Awareness
2.  Self-Management
3.  Social Awareness
4.  Relationship Management

For more details on each of these aspects refer to the Emotional Intelligence handout on ACES under Files.

We're Just "Friends"

As we study the development of relationships and you put together your self-concept game, I'm sure you are reflecting on people who have been significant in your life. This week's blog looks at friendships.

Friendships can be complicated.  Blog your answers and experiences to these 3 questions.
1)  What's the difference between a bromance and homosexuality?
2)  Do you believe it's possible to be physically and emotionally attracted to someone and remain "just friends" without it ever escalating into something more?
3) Is it possible to end a love relationship with someone and then be good friends afterwards without it ever leading to something else or causing problems with new love partners?

EXCUUUUSE ME!

While most human beings will engage in making some excuses in their lives, the common Ben Franklin saying “He that is good for making excuses is seldom good for anything else,” may be more of a self-fulfilling prophesy for excuse-makers than simply avoidance or laziness. Whether excuses are used to shift blame or improve what other people think, it may be easier for excuse-makers to live with excuses than think about living with having tried at something and failed.

Share with us a time when someone has given you an excuse that you know was a lie. How did you know that it wasn't the truth? What verbal/nonverbal cues were there? How did it affect your perception of  that person?