As we study the development of relationships and you put together your self-concept game, I'm sure you are reflecting on people who have been significant in your life. This week's blog looks at friendships.
Friendships can be complicated. Blog your answers and experiences to these 3 questions.
1) What's the difference between a bromance and homosexuality?
2) Do you believe it's possible to be physically and emotionally attracted to someone and remain "just friends" without it ever escalating into something more?
3) Is it possible to end a love relationship with someone and then be good friends afterwards without it ever leading to something else or causing problems with new love partners?
1) What's the difference between a bromance and homosexuality?
2) Do you believe it's possible to be physically and emotionally attracted to someone and remain "just friends" without it ever escalating into something more?
3) Is it possible to end a love relationship with someone and then be good friends afterwards without it ever leading to something else or causing problems with new love partners?
I think the difference is that a bromance is just when two guys are best friends and do everything together. Like going to movies, dinner, sports games, ect., and never take to a sexual place. Now the being attracted to someone and just being friends I really think can’t work. Someone always gets to close and when feelings get involved its just to hard. Something bad will always come out of that situation. And for the loving someone and ending it trying to be good friends, No it doesn’t work. In my experience being just friends is hard. You know like seeing them out in town kind of thing and saying hi. Now to talk all the time and doing things together, just don’t see it happening with out some kind of drama, especially if you’re in another relationship. My wife is my lover and best friend so I really don’t need anyone else….
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In my personal opinion, I see bromance as a type of friendship between two dudes who share similar interests, hobbies, etc. They hang out, do stuff together, take care of each other as in "I got your back" or "I'm here for you bro" kinda thing nothing more.
ReplyDeleteHomosexuality is different in the sense that it is similar to a the qualities of bromance yet there is a physical attraction or bond between the same gender.
For example, I have several good friends of mine that have been here since HS still and when we hang out, it's all about having a good time, etc and nothing more.
As for remaining "friends" with someone who you are physically and emotionally attracted to, I'd have to say that's not very likely but not impossible. I personally have met girls whom I'm attracted to and to stay "friends" is difficult because you see them in another way and sometimes bypass how they see you. However, the only way I maintain this "friendship" with them is that you learn to understand their viewpoint, how they see you, and in the end you put enough effort to have their friendship but not enough to be something more.
Lastly, for love relationships that end, to continue the "good friend" idea with that person is that you've grown to understand that everything happens for a reason, no matter who did what or who's fault was it. I know that I myself had a hard time doing this but you learn so much after it all happens that you learn from your mistakes and move on to something better.
1. Bromance is doing everything with your best friend. Let's just say that you hang out with your friend and say that you go fishing, that's bromance. Homosexually involves a physical attraction of two (same sex people [men or women]). They may have some similar interest.
ReplyDelete2. No, if you are physically and emtionally attracted to someone, it is hard to remain "just friends." Being in a relationship is one level and "just friends" is on antoner level. I am not throwing this in to sound bad, but two "friend" cannot have a sexual relationship on that level.
3. No, again if you go into a commited relationship with a long time friend, the person can ruin a good friendship that took years to establish. I am not trying to say don't date a friend, but be careful.
1. My "manfriend" and I had a "bromantic" evening last night:). All we did was talk trash, walk around downtown, and observe woman. In the event if we walked around observing men, then that would be a form of homosexuality.
ReplyDelete2. Sometimes when people are attracted to each other, circumstances may prevent them into pursuing a romantic relationship. In my opinion, I do feel that people can just be friends or what not, even if attracted to each other because extraordinary boundaries sometimes shouldn't be crossed.
3. This could be possible (seen it on the show Friends), but I have to be a little skeptical. Trying to maintain a friendship with an ex-lover and maintain a current relationship with a lover would be kind of difficult. So, no I don't think so.
1. I think the line between homosexuality and a bromantic relationship is a little more complicated than my fellow students have described. A bromance is not your casual, everyday male friendship; it borders on--or maybe even surpasses--obsession. Though it may not involve sexually charged feelings, it is definitely deeper and perhaps more confusing than any normal friendship.
ReplyDelete2. One of my guy friends has told me on a few occasions that he has feelings for me, but because I don't reciprocate, it has never become anything more. This may be one of those weird exceptions to the rule, but our friendship has never become awkward or forced. So yes, I absolutely believe it's possible to put your romantic feelings aside in order to pursue a great friendship. The trick is, you have to be able to see the object of your affection in a capacity other than that of a lover. Difficult, yes. But not impossible.
3. I know for a fact it's possible to be true friends after a break-up because it's happened to me. I once dated a guy in high school for quite a while, and we did everything together and got along great. The only thing that made me question if we should be dating is that I had feelings for another guy. I realized my feelings for my boyfriend were very different than what I felt for this other guy. It then became obvious that me and my boyfriend were just really, really awesome friends pretending to be romantically involved. After I brought it up, he admitted to feeling the same way about me...and we're close to this day. It's never gotten in the way of any relationships I've had because it truly is platonic and I would never date a guy who felt threatened by something so innocent.
1) Bromance is just a pop culture word for two guys who are best friends. Like how a group of girls who are best friends can refer to eachother as "girlfriend" but they mean it in a totally platonic, non-sexual way. Homosexuality is when two people of the same sex are emotionally as well as physically attracted to one another. It's like a heterosexual relationship, the only difference is that the people who are attracted to one another are of the same sex.
ReplyDelete2)It is possible to be attracted to someone physically and emotionally and not have it go anywhere else if the other person doesn't feel the same. It takes two to have a romantic relationship. They can still be friends and what not, but if the affections aren't returned, feelings can be hurt and friendships can end that way.
3)Depending on the maturity of the two people and even how bad the breakup was, two people can be friends after a relationship breakup. Now if one of them hasn't truly gotten over it or has jealousy issues or feels offended or hurt by the other, then yes, it can affect future relationships and their friendship.
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ReplyDeleteNow to look at bromance, the primary difference between a bromance and homosexuality is the desire for sex or the lack thereof. Although the word bromance indicates a romantic relationship a true bromance is far from being romantic in nature and once it crosses that line the bromance has ended and evolved into homosexuality. Now the question is it possible to be physically and emotionally attracted to someone and remain just friends. Well yes it is possible, but I would not advise it. If you find yourself in a friendship with someone and are physically and emotionally attracted to them and your friend does not reciprocate, I would consider the friendship carefully as you are about to embark on a tough emotional rollercoaster. If you find yourself in a friendship where your friend is physically and emotionally attracted to you and you have no desire to explore or reciprocate those feelings, end the friendship as you are going to do more harm than good. This type of relationship tends to be one side and the person who is attracted to the other will stick around hoping that maybe someday their feelings will be reciprocated. Last no, it is not possible to end a love relationship and be friends of any kind. The problem with this situation is when one person moves on to a new love interest, the new interest tends to be insecure about the new relationship and pushes the ex/ friend out of the picture.
ReplyDelete1. A bromance is a strong friendship between two guys. If anyone has seen the show scrubs, two of the main characters (J.D. and Turk) have a bromance. They do almost everything together. They went to the same high school, college, med school, live together, and even work at the same hospital. They are two guys that are just really good friends and have each others backs but don't have feelings for each other on a different level. Homosexuality is being attracted to another of the same sex and having more emotional feelings towards them.
ReplyDelete2. I believe that it is possible to be emotionally and physically attracted to someone and remain friends, but the one who is attracted to the other friend has to respect them and know not to try and go beyond the friendship. If they don't respect the other person and keep trying to push them into something they don't want then that's when it becomes hard to stay friends.
3. I also believe it is possible to be friends with someone after a relationship. It may not be possible at first but after some time it's easier and you realize that there may be no reason to not be friends. If you were friends with someone before you got into a relationship then it shouldn't be that hard to be friends with them again afterwards.
1. Definitely, It is difficult to tell the difference between bromance and homosexuality. From literally, homosexuality has more tendency toward closer relationship.
ReplyDelete2. I can believe there is possibility of platonic relationship between two persons. There are more than once time that some friends of girls told me about their stories of "good sisters". Most of them just stay together for really a long period of time but just be attracted mentally, some of their relationship even keep lasted even they had boyfriend.
3. The only possibility of keeping "good friends" relationship after break up is they just treat it as a game.
1. To me a bromance is simply a joke between two men who are the best of friends. There is no true emotional attatchment that could lead to a relationship. The same way two girls can be BFF without being lesbian goes the same for men and their 'bromance.' Homosexuality is when there is both a physical and emotional attraction and both parties are on the same page as far as relationship and sexual orientation.
ReplyDelete2. I do believe two people can be both physically and emotionally attracted to eachother without there ever being anything there. I am a girl who has several guy friends who are considered my 'bros.' We are the best of friends, and yes they find me attractive, and I the same, however I can never say I have wanted them in a romantic way of any sort. We are just two attractive people who find eachother attractive and get along great- Hence the reason why we are such great friends.
3. It is possible to maintain a healthy relationship with an ex. But in order to do this, both have to be in agreement with knowing boundaries that you cannot cross anymore. However because of jealousy (typically with the partner) of one it does make it difficult to maintain relationships afterwards. Especially if you confide in the ex. A lot of times they will try to sort of 'brainwash' or direct you in another path.
1. A bromance is a made up term by the media that describes two straight guys that have an overly affectionate relationship. Homosexuality is completely different from a bromance. Homosexuality is a serious physical and emotional relationship with the same sex.
ReplyDelete2. It is possible to have a “just friends” relationship if both people are on the same page and respectful of each other without escalating anything. I personally think it’s a waste of time and energy and becomes pretty awkward after one person moves on and the other hasn’t. 3. So, you could end a relationship and be friends only if both people are on the same level. If one person decides to give up on being “just friends” the other has to give up too so there’s no weird feelings.
The definition of a bromance depends on who you ask. Some people have different experiences with bromances than others. To me the difference between a bromance and homosexuality is that in a bromance, neither person is attracted to the other in a physical way. They may pretend to be to get laughs, but in reality they aren’t. Some of my friends and I would sometimes invade each other’s personal space, but that doesn’t mean that we were attracted to each other. We would do it for the laughs or because we were comfortable with each other. To me, a bromance is more about being close friends and supporting each other. Sometimes “normal” boundaries are crossed (not just physical ones, but also emotional ones as well as others) and this can be misconstrued as “homosexual” behavior.
ReplyDeleteI don’t think it’s possible to be just friends with someone who you are physically and emotionally attracted to without it ever escalating into something more. One person is always going to want to be more than just friends. I think that some people can try to be just friends despite the attraction, but eventually one person will be let down or the relationship will escalate into something more.
I think it might be possible for two people who were in a relationship to remain good friends after the break up. Some people might rush into a relationship and later realize that the relationship was based solely on physical attraction or that they would be better off as friends; it might even be that they were friends before they got together and decided that they preferred being friends. With the intimate relationship out of the way, they can focus on being friends. As far as causing problems with new love partners, I think it depends on the partner. Some people are simply too jealous to let something like this go. Other people trust their partners and don’t let this sort of thing get to them.
The difference as a male I believe is that a bromance is relationship that you have with someone of the same sex without the whole attraction deal coming into place. I see homosexuality as a I like an individual of the opposite sex when bromance on the other hand I believe is more of like a best friend relationship.
ReplyDeleteYes I do believe it is possible I have had many girl friends when in this case both of us were physically and emotionally attracted to each other but still remained friends and never went beyond just friends.
Yes it is possible but its least likely that you won’t become friends after the end of the love relationship. What I believe is key to being able to end it and still remain good friends is for both individuals to be mature about the situation and believe for the best in each other instead of looking for faults. Etc.
I think that the difference between a bromance and homosexuality is the lack of physical or romantic attraction. The bromance is more of a best bud relationship or having a wingman. I don't always hang out with the same guys because I'm attracted to em or wanna have very personal conversations about love and life. I hang out with em because we all love drinking beer, playing cards, ragging on each other, and playing fantasy football. As far as being physically and emotionally attracted to someone without it escalating, I sure do think it's possible. It depends on the person. For the attraction to become more I would think that the attraction would have to be mutual. Even if it is and both people are passive and never let their feelings be known, then I suppose it wouldn't turn into anything further. Finally I believe it is possible to exit a love relationship and remain just friends without any further complications. I'm not saying that this is common or easy but definitely possible. If it didn't work out and no one is at fault, why would it be difficult to wish the other person the best? It would work as just friends but both parties would have to accept that the love part of the relationship is over and have no unfinished business.
ReplyDeleteIn my opinion a bromance is a really strong bond between 2 men. There is not any sexual or stronger feelings between the two. They just have a strong friendship bond. Maybe they have been good friends for many years. Women have it with other women and it is ok, so why not men?
ReplyDeleteI think it is possible to be physically and emotionally attracted to a person and still maintain the friendship. You eventually move past the feelings. It depends on how much you want that person in your life.
I also believe that you can be friends after love. I have seen it happen in divorces and boyfriend/girlfriend relationships. Sometimes couples are better friends then lovers.
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