1. Self-Awareness
2. Self-Management
3. Social Awareness
4. Relationship Management
For more details on each of these aspects refer to the Emotional Intelligence handout on ACES under Files.
Friday, September 16, 2011
What's Your EQ?
1. Self-Awareness
2. Self-Management
3. Social Awareness
4. Relationship Management
For more details on each of these aspects refer to the Emotional Intelligence handout on ACES under Files.
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Of the 4 major aspects of emotional intelligence I feel the most important to living a successful life is Self-Management. Self-Management encompasses many of the values people and employers look for in others such as: integrity, achieving excellence, and goal orientation. For example take the Army Values: Loyalty, Duty, Honor, Respect, Selfless Service, Integrity, and Personal Courage. Now, compare the army values to self-management and one can see see how similar the two are.
ReplyDeleteIn my personal situation I find that I am relatively more successful than most of my peers (those in my high school graduating class). I do not say this out of arrogance or vanity, as I am not immune too difficult life circumstances or setbacks and am grateful for what I have. However, in the context of Self-Management, I hold a high self opinion because I have struggled and sacrificed to maintain my values. For this I have been blessed with a loving family of 4, a successful career (I do not say career lightly), and a home which I own, and much more.
Values have been taught to me since birth by my mother and father, and then later deeply instilled in me through out my military career. It is for this reason that I feel that of the 4 major aspect of emotional intelligence self-management is the most important.
Out of the 4 types of emotional intelligence I would say self-management would be most important. If everyone would or could learn to control and manage themselves things would run smooth. Just learning to control out burst in certain situations and acting right in tough ones, could go a long way in making people a little better. In the Navy we use the words Honor, Courage, and Commitment. I think everyone of them falls under self-management. Being committed to your goals, having the courage to know when you are wrong, and honor by trying to be better everyday of your life.
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Self-Management refers to managing one's internal states, impulses and resources. If that's the case, then before you manage one's internal states, etc., one must first know one's internal states, preferences, resources, and intuitions.
ReplyDeleteIn emotional intelligence, I would say self-awareness is important for one of the many reasons that the first step starts with you. You can't commit to meeting goals or any of that until you know yourself first. Got to know where you stand, what and where you're priorities stand, what you want in life, etc. Then we can apply self management to improving your ideas and becoming a better person in all areas.
Pretty much knowing your strengths and limits, what one's self -worth and capabilities, and recognizing how one's emotion affect you is the first step. As far as I see it, Self Awareness is first in EI.
Although all of four above are all important to make people achieve their success, but I think self-management is the most important one among them. The reason is:
ReplyDelete1. From external, self-management can make people have more capacity to control their behaviour while they were set in conflict or extreme situation. It is may not that everyone can be a good leader, but everyone always have chance to be a good cooperator. On this premise, having a good ability of control oneself's behaviour or words, can avoid a lot of unnecessary scratching and make team or group goes smooth.
2. From interior, we are all the witnesses of how successful will be about a good emotion controller. And definitely, a good emotion controller can also perform a attractive personal character to gather and shine people who around him---not only him/herself. I believe that is the source of "personal charm".
I believe self management is the most important part of emotional intelligence. Self management includes managing internal states, impulses, and resources. If you don't control anything you feel internally then it will be negatively displayed externally. If you do not control your impulses it most likely would exclude you from many opportunities that may come up because of certain decisions that you have to make and how you may handle them. If you don't manage yourself, then you probably aren't any better at managing other things which could also prevent you from being successful.
ReplyDeleteMy score was a 46. I believe that your IQ is just as important as your EQ. You have to be smart as well as being nice to others. Take my profession for example, I am in the Fire and EMS field, you have to know what you are doing as well as showing compassion towards your patient to show them that you are concerned for them. Both IQ and EQ are important. You don't want to shut people out of your life and exclude them or exclude yourself from the group.
ReplyDeleteI believe that relationship management is the more important of the four aspects of emotional intelligence. While being in control of oneself and being aware of another's existence is vital, being in genuine, positive or loving relationships should define you as someone who is self-aware, have self-management, and is socially aware. I would rather have good relationship management skills in order to insure at not being alone.
ReplyDeleteI personally think self-awareness is the most important aspect of emotional intelligence. The other three aspects are all important, but in my opinion the other three aspects all deal with satisfying other people’s expectations. Instead of acting according to others emotions and preferences, you should concern your attention to yourself first. I wouldn’t suggest people act selfishly, but I would say in order to be successful you should first be self-aware before moving on to anything else.
ReplyDeleteSelf-awareness is the most important facet of emotional intelligence to me because I strongly believe you cannot know others until you know yourself. In the long run, relationship management, self-management, and social awareness may be equally significant parts of the whole, but understanding yourself and being conscious of how you come across is definitely the first step to being able to deal with others successfully. Without that first step, the rest will probably be a frustrating and difficult undertaking, fraught with miscommunication all around. How can you be expected to effectively communicate with others until you have learned to communicate with yourself? We must teach ourselves to be able to read our own feelings because most of the time they're in code. The only way we can be who we want to be is by first identifying how we're not; that takes a high level of commitment to ourselves. No one else can tell you your limits and capabilities. No one else can turn your potential into kinetic energy.
ReplyDeleteI would have to say self awareness is the most important to leading a healthy lifestyle. It is the top priority because if you have no sense of self then it is impossible to know others, relate to others because you are still growing and trying to relate to your own self. Also it means a lot in relationships be it a girlfriend/boyfriend, friend, acquaitance, or stranger. Everyone is perceiving you how they want and if you have no sense of self identity you may be conflicting with how others see you.
ReplyDeleteI think that it is a toss up between Self Management and Relationship Management. You need self management to control what you are feeling on the inside. You have to be in control of what you feel so you can act accordingly. If you cant manage your internal self then it will directly affect everything else. Then on the other hand if you have poor relationship management then it can directly affect how much you can succeed. Everything thing we do involves some sort of interaction with others and if you have poor skill in this area then you risk failing and affecting the other areas.
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